Shelley Hayden

Friday, July 26, 2013

Coffeyville -

Shelly HaydenShelley Denise Hayden, 41, of Coffeyville, passed away Thursday, July 25, 2013 at her home.

She was born July 12, 1972 at Bartlesville, OK to Vernon and Connie (Juaire) Hughes. Shelley grew up and attended school Coffeyville, graduating from Field Kindley High School, and Coffeyville Community College.  She also attended Pittsburg State University and Beauty School in Emporia.

Shelley was a nanny for 12 years taking care of Chase White, Connor White, Ireland White, and Gracen White.

On March 25, 2001 she married Matt Hayden at Eureka Springs, AR.  Following their marriage they made their home in Coffeyville.

Shelly was a member of Holy Name Catholic Church.  She loved children and enjoyed cooking.

Survivors include her husband, Matt Hayden of the home; her father and step-mother, Vernon and Laura Jane Hughes of Coffeyville; her mother and step-father, Connie and Howie Hafner of Independence; two sisters, Vonda Donaldson and husband Jason of Coffeyville, her twin sister, Cher’ Brown of Bucyrus; step-sister, Lisa Leedom and husband Chris of Sarasota, FL; brother-in-law, Chad Hayden and wife Stacy of Coffeyville;  uncle, Rick Dilli of Independence; nieces and nephew, Veronica Chaffin, Chelsea Hughes, Cass Brown, Carmen Brown, Lindsey Hayden, and Drake Hayden; and great niece Emma Clark.

A Rosary Vigil Service will be at 6:00 p.m. Monday, July 29, 2013 at Holy Name Catholic Church.

Mass of Christian Burial will be at 10:00 a.m. Tuesday, July 30, 2013 at Holy Name Catholic Church with Father Ben Nguyen officiating.  Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery.

Friends may sign the register book on Monday from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. at the David W. Barnes Funeral Home in Coffeyville.

In lieu of flowers the family suggests memorials to Whisper Walk for Ovarian Cancer, or Coffeyville Relay for Life; contributions may be left with the funeral home or mailed c/o David W. Barnes Funeral Home, 306 North Cline Road, Coffeyville, KS 67337.



{ 26 comments… read them below or add one }

Mary Vining August 2, 2013 at 12:19 pm

I am so so very sorry to hear of the news about Shelley. I just ran into Howie and he told me. God Bless and many prayers to all each and everyday. Shelley was most definitely a pillar of strength and perserverance. As someone else said she always had a smile for everyone. A very beautiful smile at best.

Larry & Kathy Wood August 1, 2013 at 4:13 pm

There are no words to describe how sad our entire family is, at this time. She was so courageous for soooo long–she was such an example of Grace. What a role model for battling all kinds of cancer. The good news –she is finally living with no cancer–I am sure she is having a really great time reuniting with all her friends & loved ones who were waiting on her to arrive. I hope as time goes by the entire family finds great Grace & Peace. She will be sorely missed by all who knew her.

Ddarrel & Bonnie Long August 1, 2013 at 11:44 am

Darrel and I are so sorry for your loss of Shelley. I know it is hard for you, but you have our thoughts and prayers and those of many others. We are thinking of you.

Pattie Lamb-Foster July 30, 2013 at 12:14 pm

Matt may God comfort you and give you peace in your heart & strength for days ahead.

You are in my thoughts & prayers…

Pattie Lamb-Foster
(formerly RSR group from Amazon)

Edwina Kay Hulsey-Allison July 30, 2013 at 11:43 am

You are in my prayers through this difficult time. So Sorry for your loss.
Love you,

Todd Hills July 30, 2013 at 7:30 am

My condolences to you and Shelley’s family. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Michele Beard, Jose DeAnda and Bryce Hestand July 29, 2013 at 5:56 pm

Our deepest condolences goes out to Matt and Shelleys family. She was a true angel and earned her wings way before she entered heaven’s gates. She is going to be truly missed and will always hold a special place in mine and Bryce’s heart. Bryce looked up to Shelley and how strong she was. Shelley was so supportive when Bryce was diagnosed with Leukemia 13yrs ago. She was an inspiration to us and she will be truly missed. Matt if there is anything we can do for you all, please don’t hesitate to let us know. Your all in our thoughts and prayers!

Mark, Amanda Wolfe & Lila Lemke & Kathryn Ladd & David Wolfe & Anthony, Dawn & Madison Shutt July 29, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Our deepest sympathy to the families of Shelly. May God bless you in this time of loss. All of you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Jackie Arndt July 29, 2013 at 11:46 am

To all the people that loved Shelley- There just are no words that will provide comfort and peace at this time; God’s comfort and grace will do that in time. I know you are so sad and I am too thinking about how Shelley struggled and fought for so long and you were right there with her; I smile knowing she is at peace with many loved ones with her in the place we all hope to go someday, God’s glory land. No matter when it happens it is too soon. Her smile brightens heaven even more. What an example she was for so many. I love all of you am thinking about you all the time, Jackie and family.

Belinda & Dick Robison July 29, 2013 at 10:40 am

We are so sorry for your loss. Shelley was such a beautiful, beautiful person. I first met her at her Aunt Ruth’s when she and Cher’ were sitting in a high chair having a snack and giggling when they were just toddlers. The last time was at Wal-Mart after she had been through another round of treatments, and she was even more beautiful then. Always that beautiful smile and those sparkling eyes. She made you feel good just being around her.
Our sincere condolences to all her family. I know your hearts are hurting.

Travis and Lyndia Letterman July 28, 2013 at 10:24 pm

There are no words to express how truly sorry we are for your loss. I will always remember Shelly’s wonderful smile and caring heart. God Bless.

Marianne & Mike Diakiw July 28, 2013 at 9:05 pm

My Heart Sank when I opened the local paper. I am so very sorry to read about Shelley. What a beautiful picture. She was a pretty girl. And had a beautiful soul to match. No more suffering Shelley. You & Your Families are in our thoughts & our prayers. Shelley May you rest in peace. God Bless. I will never understand why God puts people thru so much suffering. You left this earth so very young But I know you made a great big impact on so, so many people. I am very Happy I was lucky enough to even know you. You will be missed by many.

Joyce Nichols July 28, 2013 at 7:20 pm

Matt – you are in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. Shelley will be missed, but just remember that you will see her again. Much love to you and the family.

Charles & Bonnie Smith July 28, 2013 at 7:09 pm

Our thought are with each of you. Such a delightful young lady. We have known Shelley since grade school and she was always a cheerful person. Everyone will have cherished memories of her. Thoughts and prayers with each of you.

Robbie & Leanna Cook July 28, 2013 at 3:20 pm

Our family sends their deepest sympathy for the loss of such a very special young lady. May you all find peace through the memories you hold so dear. Our hearts ache for you. Shelley will be forever missed. God Bless you!

Carolyn Chrisman July 28, 2013 at 2:50 pm

To Vernon and Families,

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, Shelley was a beautiful young woman. Wanted to let you know I will be thinking and praying for you and your family.
Love to all
Carolyn and Families

Carolyn Francis July 28, 2013 at 2:44 pm

I knew Shelley thru Grace Fellowship Preschool. She was a delightful person. Just being in her presence made everyone smile. Matt when someone we love becomes a memory that memory becomes a treasure. May God comfort you in this time of loss and bring you peace.

Vicki Hodges July 28, 2013 at 12:29 pm

Everyone who had the pleasure of knowing Shelley, will forever be blessed. A kind and gentle soul, fun loving, life of the party, personality that literally sparkled…that’s Shelley. To all of Shelley’s family and dear friends, my deepest and sincere sympathy.

Barbara Homer July 27, 2013 at 10:03 am

Matt and all Shelley’s family. Deepest sympathy for your loss. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning. May your memories be nothing but joy. Shelley’s smile would brighten a dark and cloudy day. Much love to you all.
Barbara, Julius and Jason Homer

Kathy and Larry Seigel July 26, 2013 at 11:12 pm

To all of Shelley’s family, We are so sorry and will always remember Shelley fondly. What a brave and special person she was! I consider it a privilege to have known her!
Our prayers and thoughts to all of you.

Jim and Linda Bradshaw July 26, 2013 at 9:20 pm

Matt we are so sorry to hear the about the passing of Shelley. Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family

Becky Vaughn Castro July 26, 2013 at 8:57 pm

I am so sorry to hear about Shelley. She was such a great person and will be missed by many. She left her mark upon this earth that will not be forgotten. May God comfort you and the family during this trying time and give you peace.

Becky Vogt July 26, 2013 at 6:26 pm

My deepest sympathy to Shelley’s family and devoted husband Matt. She was such a sweet, sweet girl, always had that great big smile on her face regardless of the hand she was dealt and the pain she must have suffered. She left her mark on this earth and will be remembered as the beautiful person she was by many people.

Aunt Ruth July 26, 2013 at 5:46 pm

It is so hard to believe that I will never get to see her on this earth again. When I think of Shelley I remember the little girl that lived next door and was always getting into mischief with Cher and Damon. And they all irritated Vonda and Tanya. And after Tamara was born trying to boss her around. RIP my awesome niece . you will be missed so many. Love you, Aunt Ruth

Kathy Cornett July 26, 2013 at 4:28 pm

I am so, so sorry to hear of Shelley’s death. She was so strong and brave, and I am sure that you will miss her for the rest of your lives; many, many others will miss her tremendously, too. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kim McKinley-Yeubanks July 26, 2013 at 2:03 pm

Shelley will forever be loved and missed by so many. She was such a wonderful person. Shelley always had a smile for everyone. She will be remembered by us all.

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